We are all devoted to something, regardless of who we are--nice or not. For many it's simply ourselves or for what we do. For others who have flourished with partners, then the strength of those devotions make for loving relationships.But the roles we play are critical, too.
For example, if you ask a parent to chose life for their child or for the other parent, then they will chose the child every time. It is because parents are devoted to their child beyond what they feel or what they can even do.
For a mother, her devotion focuses just as much on "her child" as the person that he is, for in him she sees not only what he has been but what he will become.
For a wife, her person and her role fuse as a focus of her husband's devotion, for he sees the spectrum of his life with her now and when she's too old to stand.
And for a Secret Service agent who was asked by a teen about his willingness to "take a bullet" for his president, she prodded, "... even if he is a democrat?" Of course, his devotion is to the office as much as the man and so he will not hesitate.
When it comes to the topic of finding a partner, ultimately we can do nothing about the character or the choices of those around us. Only by being genuine about our own devotions can we reveal to another person what we are capable of and what we desire. And our own clarity within will help us recognize when the other person is capable of such great devotion. Find this and you find someone who could love you to the end of days.